Jan 08, 2021
We're one week into the new year.
So the questions for today are ...
Did you make any 'New Year Resolutions'? And if so ... have you broken them yet?
I guess one of the top 'resolutions' which lots of us (well at least us females) make year on year is 'LOSE WEIGHT'.
But maybe 'eat healthier' and 'exercise more' should be what we aim for. That will, we know, help us to lose the pounds.
Many of us set ourselves unrealistic resolutions, don't you think? They're more like dreams.
'Find the perfect partner', 'Be successful', 'Earn loads of money' ... you get my drift.
All our resolutions, I suggest, if taken seriously, require a bit of effort, maybe even some imagination. Unless you are very fortunate, things don't usually get handed to us on a plate!
If we want to be successful we need to have something we want to be successful at. If we want to earn more money, we need to think about how we might do that. We might need some aims, a plan, perhaps a strategy.
It all sounds a bit like hard work, right?
As for me, well I've given up making firm resolutions for the start of the calendar year because I've recognised that setting unrealistic expectations meant too much pressure, and too much self hatred when I failed, which I invariably did.
When I was a child I was a rather anxious personality and I was a nail biter. Every New Year I would resolve to stop biting my nails, sometimes down to the quick! I tried all sorts, including nasty-tasting stuff on the nails which made me feel sick when they touched my lips.
Nothing worked. In fact, not being able to stop biting my nails made me even more anxious.
Then, one day, I realised, I HAD stopped the nail chewing. Somehow, it felt almost miraculously, I had nails! I could file and polish them like other girls! Without trying, I had managed it!
Why had this, finally, happened?
Well, I'm convinced that it was because I stopped obsessing about it, and also because as I grew up I managed to grow a little more confident. Although I was (and still am actually) a bit of an anxious personality, I learned to live with it, manage it and ... as a result ... my nails were no longer the victims of my angst!
These days, if I secretly have 'resolutions' in my mind and heart, they are not just for the New Year but for all time.
Love, peace, joy, grace to face an uncertain future, gratitude for the people in my life and the things I have been blessed with - just a few of the things most of us yearn for I think.
In my case, as I'm a person of faith, I also resolve to grow closer to God, to pray and read my Bible and 'dwell' on spiritual matters more than in the past, to learn to be more loving, peaceful, happy or joyful, attempting to be full of grace and gratitude. But like all resolutions, this also means my being willing and determined to do this regularly, on a daily basis.
Nothing, not even those untouchable 'somethings' which are less about 'stuff' and 'possessions', come to us without our own determination and resolve ... and it might mean a bit of hard work on our part!
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